{victim}

its always easy to decide to be the "victim" in circumstances. its easy to submit to the feelings that we have the "right" to be in this position and to stay in this position.

do we have that right? maybe. but i encourage you to move on.

we all know its easier to be there. but then we have to ask ourselves, "how is that in any way beneficial for maturing and becoming a better person?" its hard because, while you are miserable, at the same time you arent proving the point of it all to anyone when you claim the victim card.

i played the victim. for 7 years. to get attention, to feel safe. i felt secure in this role because it didnt push me to grow up and face my problems. it didnt make me question things or realize lies that were thrown at me. you get to be the baby and people eventually lose respect for you. but at the time i had the "right" to be moody. and then i learned that no one cared anymore. i was so repetitive with my plea for sympathy while i sat on my butt and did nothing. so many people took the "high road" and it began to tick me off! but then i started to DO something. i realized, "hey! if i take the "high road" then i wont always be ticked that others are doing it".

your healing begins in your time. your healthy perspective starts to change when you decide to change it. if we work through crap and it seems to never end, to me that just says that it will. if we see no end in sight and we feel like we are drowning, then there is a possibility that it means we are dealing with the crap that needs dealt with.  

maybe when we are in pain, we are on the right path?

being in a state of confusion and sadness isnt always bad. a lot of times, thats what we are most sensitive to what God wants to tell us and show us. when we are so open, raw, and acknowledge help, that is when the Holy Spirit takes over.

God does NOT quit on people. if you think He has quit on you, then i encourage you to seek out being properly introduced to Jesus and all of who He is.

{Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid}
John 14:26-28

{sara}